It was Valentine’s Day this week. Personally, I have no feelings towards Valentine’s Day, on the one hand, you get to dress up, go for a nice meal and get gifts, and on the other hand, you have to dress up, leave your room, and buy a gift for someone. For me, the reasons to love Valentine’s Day are also the reasons to hate it. There shouldn’t be just one day of the year to show someone you care, it should be an everyday occurrence. And also, I think there needs to be a self-love aspect to Valentine’s Day.
Self-love is important, especially when you’re at university with all the stress and pressure to be in a relationship. We, as a generation need to learn how to be satisfied in ourselves, we need to learn to love ourselves just as we are and not need someone to validate us. For me, relationship or no relationship, loving myself comes first. That’s why this Valentine’s day, I decided to have a self-love Valentine’s Day resolution.
These I the things I promise to do to show me how much I love and appreciate me on a daily basis:
- Take care of my body – This means that I have to listen to my body, when something makes me feel sick, I stop eating it. This means knowing my limit when it comes to alcohol and also treating my body like it matters and not just stuff it with whatever.
- Pamper myself – As a poor student, I can’t afford spa days (except, wait nope, still can’t afford it), so pampering myself means changing my nail polish colour every week, filing my nails. Using a face mask twice a week, sleeping for more than 8 hours one day a week. Just the little things to show myself some love.
- Learn more – I am a big nerd and I love learning and reading, but being in final year has made it super difficult to do anything other than university work. So my resolution is to watch YouTube videos and learn how to paint/draw and actually use my sketchpad. This means I’m going to read my book on the Mende tribe that I’ve had on my bedside for 4 months. I’m going to make time for me.
Valentine’s Day is not just the day for showing someone you love them, but also for showing yourself that you love you. Let’s embrace self-love.