This week I’ve faced a lot of disappointments, whether it’s from people, or my own performance or life in general and I realise that I’m not the only one who faces disappointments. Even though it is easy to think so because when something bad happens, we tend to dwell on it and think that we are the only ones who have ever felt the way that we do.
So I decided to write a mini guide on coping with disappointments, I really hope that it helps everyone who reads this.
The most important thing for disappointment is the way you respond, because it is what determines the long term outcome of the situation. And I am not someone who is usually led by emotions but when I’m angry or disappointed, I tend to get consumed by it and I react in a rash manner. So therefore, the most important thing to do in a situation like that is to just take a step back, to deal with your emotions before acting in the situation. The key is to act not react. Reactions can have consequences that can be avoided by just taking a step back.
Furthermore, it is important to see things from a different perspective, a positive perspective. For me, I find that easier than most people because I am a Christian. Therefore when I dot get a job or internship, I just tell myself that God has something better planned for me and that helps me deal with the disappointment. For others, who may not believe in God, it is still important to know that everything happens for a reason, the good and the bad.
In addition, a key response to tackling disappointment is to understand that not everything is about you. It is so easy to take things personally, to see how things effect you and not those around you. For example, you may be disappointed in someone’s behaviour, however, you have to remember that they have their own life, their own worries and that they are humans, and they make mistakes and forget things.
I really hope this helps, because writing it has helped me. And remember tomorrow is a new day and you can always try again.